Different Stages in Life!

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I have been thinking a lot lately about where we all are in life at the moment, I have read some great blogs from young bloggers and I think ‘Wow’, they know so much more about ‘intentional living’ than I did at their age, in fact, I had never even heard of ‘intentional living’, they are so lucky.  At 50, I am only starting to ‘wake up’ and rather than think ‘fate’ will foretell my journey, I am realising that I am the author of my life.

Why has it took me so long to come to this realisation?  Apart from being a bit slow, I am not sure, except that I have been caught up in the strains and stresses of working, living and everything else that came my way.  Anyway, I am here now and intend to make the rest of my life better, cleaner, and more purposeful.

In fact, I have reached the point where I resent the fact that I have to go to work just to try keep up with my mortgage, bills and £18,000 personal debts, mainly on credit cards.  I am currently on a DMP (Debt Management Plan) with Step Change because after living on my credit cards (due to overspending), I got to the stage where I simply ran out of credit and could no longer make the minimum payments.  These debts have caused me a huge amount of stress and worry.  I have also realised my spending is related to my mental health, whenever I have felt low, I have gone on a little spending spree, at one stage there was barely a day I didn’t buy something.

The realisation that my spending habits relate to how I feel at any given time, has made me realise, there are other (cheaper) ways  to feel good.  Realising that link between my mental health and over spending, the consumer trap I have fallen in to, buying in to consumerism and ‘keeping up with the Jones’ is enough to make me change my ways.

I no longer browse online when I am bored, I carefully consider if I really want / need an item before purchasing, I also put in my planner on pay-day 1 or 2 things I ‘plan’ to buy, things I have given careful consideration to purchasing, sometimes by the time pay day comes along I have changed my mind.

I have not worked out exactly how old I will be by the time my debts are paid off, but at the rate I am paying them off now, I will be over 100 years old taking the interest into account. This is not how I want to spend my retirement years, this is not what I have worked so hard for all my life.  I came to the conclusion that the only other option is to increase my income and eventually (hopefully within 3-5 years) hand my notice in to a job I have not an ounce of interest in anymore, this lack of interest is down to my own self-realisation in what I can and want to achieve; help people in some way, no matter how small to improve their own lives, if we all share what we know, we will gain many lifetimes of knowledge, how wonderful is that!.

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The Newbie Blogger!

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Well, It’s been a week since my blog went live, I’d just like to thank that one person who visited my site, oh wait I think that was me!  Anyway, regardless of the lack of traffic, I am enjoying writing for this site, I find it cathartic and relaxing, I hope to look back and cringe at what I’ve written one day …… that will mean I have improved.

I must admit, I thought it would be easier to start a blog, I did a lot of research, so much in fact I confused myself, in the end I just got to the point where I thought, ‘just do it’, I can learn as I go along, that’s my strategy.

I have been going to bed with SEOs, CSS, Analytics, Content Strategy, plug-ins, traffic, platforms, site maps to name but a few swirling around in my head.  Sooo much to learn, lucky for me I like learning, so this suits me down to the ground, unlucky for me I am not technically minded, so when I go on a ‘How To’ website, I end up with layers of google pages as I am looking up every other word they use that I don’t understand.  Something tells me I am going to learn a lot, I mean a real Lot, with a capital ‘L’.

Setting up a blog is actually the easy bit, getting people to actually visit your site is another thing, it’s a challenge I am looking forward to.  Apparently there are more than 10 million blogs out there, so competition to get to the top of google is steep, but like I have already mentioned, this is a journey for me with the hope it will be of use to others.

I haven’t actually told anyone I have a blog yet, I have discussed that I plan to have one to very few select people.  I will start to tell people, I guess I have sort of locked myself away for the last few weeks, since losing Sully and tried to keep busy with this blogging project.

I do have a tendency to over-plan everything, I am an avid list writer, brainstormer kind of person and have realised recently, sometimes you just need to take action.  You don’t have to wait for the time to be ‘right’, that time may never come, or to gather every bit of information you need to get the job done, you learn more ‘on the job’ than absorbing massive amounts of information.  So, take the first step no matter how small it is towards what you want, no matter what that is.  Put yourself out there, regrets are one of the saddest things in this life, not realising your potential is even sadder.

Yes, it is daunting, yes, this is taking up a lot of my free time and yes, I feel scared, bordering on excitement.  I want to be a good blogger, with good content that will be useful to someone who was just like me two years ago, not happy with themselves, plodding through life, unsure of how to change things.  I truly hope as this blog develops, it will inspire people to be more, do more and above all else awaken their passions!